If you are going to do business with God, the currency is forgiveness.
Hello Beloved reader. I decided to write this unforgiveness article for you because it helped me. A few months back I attended an open-to-the-public ministry session where these questions were asked. I think many of us Christians were surprised at how many times we answered yes. Remember now – be honest with yourself. No one will see your paper but you.
It is critical to learn if there is a single person that they’ve not forgiven. It is necessary to ask the person when exactly in their life were they diagnosed with the illness. Proceed to ask the person what life events were going on at or near that time. Often, the following are typical responses a person might give.
The weighted ball-and-chain is directly attached to each person you've not forgiven. You literally carry their body weight around with you all day long. In the shower, to bed with you, in the car with you, to the grocery store with you. More importantly, you carry those you've not forgiven with you mentally and emotionally every day, which is yet another reason you're weighted down internally. Although we still respond to people saying, "We're fine, blessed, highly favored."
What is forgivness?
Is a spiritual decision to release the person, entity, institution or group who hurt you, betrayed you
Is cancelling someone from the consequence of falling short of God’s standard in your life
Is releasing resentment toward the very person who exacted very real hurt on you
Is dismissing our demand that the person owes us something
Is releasing the right to be bitter
Is releasing the right to get even
Is of God
Is releasing the right to hear the words, “I’m sorry.”
Is an act of our spiritual will
Is a process especially for those who’ve been abused/deeply hurt
What forgiveness is not
Is not a feeling
Is not an emotion
Is not being a doormat
Is not conditional
Is not stuffing your anger
Is not based on what’s fair
Is not excusing the wrong done to you
Is not justifying the wrong done to you
Is not you executing God’s wrath
Is not repentance
Is not based on what a person deserves
Is not you waiting for time to heal all wounds
Is not reconciliation [requires a minimum of two people] [forgiveness only requires 1 person]
Is not enablement [a form of people pleasing and repeatedly having no boundaries]
Is not letting the guilty off the hook, you are placing them on God’s hook
Is not denying that the wrong happened to you
The characteristics of an unforgiver
Danger - If you persist in resisting and disobeying God by being unforgiving [or whatever the sin is], you can eventually to given over to the influence of evil, satan and immorality. Acts 7:42
does not agree with God that sin is sin
delayed or even the prevention of spiritual growth
heart is turned away from God
go through verbal acts of repentance
an unforgiver often has diseases & functionally sick
is limited in hearing the voice of the Holy Spirit
an unforgiver can have psychological problems
an unforgiver can be a person laden with stress
elevate yourself above your offender
you’re emotionally stuck to your offender
you share negative information about offender
automatically open the door to satan and his demons
a hardened heart, a condemning heart
tend to be verbally abusive
blind that you’re becoming like your offender
an unforgiver ages faster
being an unforgiver affects your body’s ability to fight disease by weakening your immune system
an unforgiver can have emotional instability – fly off the handle easily or show very little emotion
Define the spirit of unforgivness, which is a stronghold
A simple word to describe this spirit of unforgiveness – hurt, a person who is deeply hurt.
A spirit of unforgiveness goes beyond temporary unwillingness to forgive.
The spirit of unforgiveness is a spiritual acid that eats through the spirit within us.
The spirit of unforgiveness is a supernatural cancer that slowly and deliberately eats you up.
There is a long time period between the time you are hurt and the time you forgive the person who hurt you.
When does unforgiveness become a stronghold?
When you refuse to forgive and the unresolved anger develops a fortified place in your mind and heart; you become mentally captive to do the enemy’s will. Ephesians 6:16
The three parts of forgiveness
Part 1 |Horizontal line of The Cross -- Forgiving others and others forgiving you
Especially needed toward family and church members because this is where most hurts come from
Part 2 | Vertical line of The Cross -- Receiving God forgiveness and us releasing God
Part 3 | Circle or halo where The Cross intersects -- Forgiving yourself and receiving forgiveness from self
Why do Christians have the most difficulty forgiving themselves than any other person?
Lie no. 1 - Sin we committed, the offense is too big to forgive
Lie no. 2 - We knew better and committed the sin anyway
Lie no. 3 - It’s a habitual sin and we continue to do it, it doesn’t deserve grace
Lie no. 4 - We’re so shamed by the sin, we should not exchange the shame for forgiveness
Lie no. 5 – You believe you don’t deserve forgiveness because of who you are
Here, it’s effective to say your own name.
For example, “Your name goes right here, I forgive myself for ____.”
So why do you not forgive when you know to do so
What was done to you or by you was too big
The hurt was planned, intentional and/or repeated
No modeling of forgiveness from our parents
They didn’t forgive me, I will not forgive them
You deny it never happened
Don’t understand God’s forgiveness
You believe the lie that bitterness is a normal response because God knows how you feel.
The pain is so deep [even though it may be simple to others] you just don’t know where to begin.
It is here where you allow the Holy Spirit to heal the pain completely first, then you’re able to forgive.
How does unforgiveness affect your prayer life?
blessings are withheld from us
our prayer life is blocked
we are spiritually dim
God doesn’t forgive us
God resists you
What is unforgiveness?
unforgiveness is a form of pride
is of satan and his demons
grieves the Holy Spirit
showcases a godless heart
keeps us in bondage to sin
is an offense to God, which makes us an offender to God
Ephesians 4:30 – 32
Matthew 18: 21, 34 – 35
II Corinthians 2: 10 -11
Luke 17: 3 – 4
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